So I am at an event wondering if I should share that I am hosting a party for my books’ first year anniversary. Even after all this time I still feel apprehensive about inviting people into my world, especially women who are mothers. But I took a step and decided to hand out my flyers.
On receipt of a flyer I was asked what my book is about to which I proudly announced “its about women who are finding a fulfilling life without children”. The women looked at me and with the swipe of her hand said “oh that’s easy, try finding a fulfilling life when you have children”. Yep I was stunned, its not one that I have heard before but it quickly reminded me that there will always be that one person that will just not get it. I’m not here saying that my journey is anymore important than hers and it was clear to me that this women has issues of her own that she needs to reconcile with but her comment really felt like a belittlement of my circumstance, a circumstance that she did not even show the slightest notion of wanting to understand.
There is not really much more that I want to say about this (especially without going into a rant of my own) but there are times when you can enjoy yourself without the notion of not being a mother having any relevance to a situation and there are times when it is just that hard!